Better Bonding over the Bottle

I would never encourage a mom to bottle feed ‘Just because’ sometimes it is necessary.  I breastfed my first for 18 months,  but with my new baby, I had to let go at 3 months.  I lamented and tortured myself over this decision.   My 2 biggest fears were the health of my baby and our bond.   Let’s cover bonding first. 

I believed that a mom bonded over breastfeeding, we are indoctrinated into this faith.   If you don’t breastfeed,  you don’t get the same bond.   Well that’s just silly,  I carried this baby one my belly for over 9 months, we’re bonded!  Babies love their mom’s no matter what, because they’re mommy.  You can beat, abuse, and starve your baby and she will still love you.  So, if, like me, you feel guilty that you won’t be able to bond with your baby because you’re bottle feeding, relax.  In fact, I find the bond is even better than breastfeeding, I’ll go more into that later.

As for babies health, everyone knows breastmilk is best, it’s made just for babies by nature & God.   It has immunity & the perfect balance of fat, protein, etc.  And everybody knows that formula-fed babies get sick more often.  Or do they?  Baby fry has been sick once in her whole 5 months of life, and she was over it in less than 24 hours.  So that fear was unfounded.  As for the nutritional value, she was starving to death,  literally, on my breast milk.  She has feeding issues that prevented her from properly stimulating my breasts.  Then, she didn’t,  still doesn’t,  eat enough, we have to put extra calories in her formula and still struggle to make her growth curve go up.  So breast isn’t always best.

And now for the stat of the show, bonding over the Bottle has been so much stronger,  fun, better, than it ever was breastfeeding.  That’s right, the bond us BETTER!  I never would have thought it possible.   How so you ask?  When you breastfeed you stare lovingly into that big beautiful eye.  The other eye is somewhere under your boob.  And, have to look down,  turn your head.   When you bottle-feed, you hold baby in a hug, look into both, big gorgeous eyes, she stares lovingly back, my heart melts.  It’s just so much more comfortable (We still use a pillow by the way).  Also, she is closer to my face.   If you thought that tiny little hand on your breast was cute, OMG, it doesn’t compare to that little hand reaching up and patting you on the cheek!  I almost died of cuteness. 
So, mom’s, if your babies health or your health is at risk due to breastfeeding, don’t sweat it, bottle feeding is truly awesome.  I’ve done both.  The only thing I miss about breastfeeding is not having to make bottles in the middle of the night (and the money)!

If your having difficulties breastfeeding, there are several resources.   Free resources are Healthy Families,  Healthy Start or WIC (Our didn’t have a lactation expert,  but they could refer us to resourced). Your doctor/insurance may refer upu to an ENT (needs a referral from your pediatrician,  a feeding specialist  (this is a specialized occupational therapist, speech language pathologist,  also requires a referral and prior authorization).  La Leche League usually charges a few, as does your local hospital or birthing unit.

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